Creating Your Own Destiny- Making Changes To A Stagnant Adventure

Another weekend has passed and we are well and truly progressing into the year like a train heading full speed down a track.

Sometimes it can feel as if our lives are on a set route, a track of destiny if you will, and it can be hard to see a change in circumstance, without fantasising about unreasonable and unlikely change.

Let’s be honest, the likelihood of me winning the lottery is slim at best, especially when I’m expecting to win without even having bought a ticket, but for some people believing in the unreasonable is what gets them through the day.

It’s no surprise that as a twenty something millennial, I’m broke as hell and each pay-check goes straight out of my bank to pay for the necessities (but we won’t go on a rant about that).

Even though money is an issue for me, the lack of it does not hinder my experiences too much. For instance, I’m still going on holiday, I still go out on a weekend, and I’m generally enjoying life. So much so that I had a pretty subdued conversation with my partner and friend about how much my nails had grown and how long and shiny nails are a sign of mental and physical well-being.

So it’s safe to assume that I’m not overly concerned about what hindrances life has to throw at me but regardless, there are a few things I would change, the biggest being my financial circumstance. A lot of people my age, as said before, have a similar issue, and think nothing of change, assuming life will resolve itself, or somehow your circumstance will change without you putting a shred of effort in.

Simply put, you cannot expect change if you sit on your bum all day and plod through life. Being proactive is the key and in order to change my circumstance, I have asked for an appraisal at the company I work for in the hope that we can discuss not only my work load and responsibilities but also my rate of pay, in the hope they will see the hard work and effort I have put into the company in the past near year.

Whether or not anything comes of my meeting we will have to see, but at least I have taken a step forward and tried to at least make my situation less stagnant.

Whether its finances you’re worried about, or something different, like a stagnant romantic relationship with a partner, or a dry relationship with a family member, or something else entirely, just know that it only takes you saying or doing something to change your path.

It may not produce the fantasised event playing in your head, like my fantasy of winning the lottery, owning yachts and various houses filled with cuddly dogs, but it will change up your day to day life, shape it into something more manageable, something to be proud of.

At the end of the day, our lives are malleable, like putty, and we can adapt and change what we’re working with to produce a piece of art that is not only unique to us but that is a great representative of our adventure.

Next week I shall be posting snaps and a more fashion based post from my holiday in Portugal so please follow this blog, or my insta story @kirstyawriter to see these inspirational outfit and travel ideas.

Until next time.

Published by Kirsty Allen

Kirsty Allen is a writer who specializes in lifestyle blogging & fiction writing. 'The Ramblings of a Madwoman' can be found at her website

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